On being recommended

In order to be recommended (as in a recommendation letter for being accepted into a university) the person doing the recommending must have some intimate knowledge of you. They must know the truth. All of it. If it hasn't been shared, it must be.

And when you share all of it (and I'm speaking mostly of negative news), there is a sense of not being deserving of the recommendation. This is good. For as soon as you believe that you deserve it, you probably don't.

Not ying and yang, but reality and truth.